You know how we have the laws of The Ten Commandments; thou shall not kill, thou shall not steal, look not upon thine neighbour’s wife’s backside, etc…
We also have the laws of The Common Law system that we practise in Nigeria; thou shall not kill unless ye have a convoy, thou shall not steal except ye hold a public office, etc…
But then, who made all the other laws that we live by? Who decided what is acceptable or unacceptable in our various societies? Even after many years, I’m still asking; who invented school and made me go???
We all do things- like set goals and accomplish our goals, carry out specific tasks and even act in a certain way- for the same silly reason: OTHER PEOPLE!!!
We start at a young age to seek approval and validation from other people. Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, our need for people to like us or approve of us is the biggest motivation behind a lot of the choices we make in life… it’s only natural.
I once dated a guy whose dad owned a lot of Psychology textbooks. That’s the closest I’ve ever gotten to a degree in Psychology so I’m not going to try to teach you how to let go of your need for approval and build a strong sense of self-acceptance. Do I look like Oprah to you?
No… I’m here today, to blame our mothers. THEY, I believe, are the root cause of this attitude.
If your mother was anything like mine, you grew up with the question “What will people say?” constantly hanging over your head. Don’t act like you don’t know what I mean…
Remember the time you wanted to be the first boy Girl Scout and your mum said, “My God! What will people say?”
Or the time you wanted to drop out of school to go on tour with that Christian stripper group (The Righteous Strippers) and she said, “My God! What will people say?”
How about the time you wanted to get a nipple ring to match your belly-button piercing and she said, “You have a belly-button piercing? My God! What have people said?!”
I’m looking back now and thinking of all the things I could’ve done with my life. And that’s why I have nothing but respect for these auto-tuned, skinny-jeans-wearing young boys who haven’t even started their periods yet but are successful in their field. I’m talking about the Davidos and the Wizkids and the Justin Biebers of the world. They had a dream, and as soon as they graduated from day-care, they pursued their dream… THEIR mothers never asked, “What will people say?”
So let’s dedicate today to the things that could have been… We’ll call it “Blame Our Mothers For Our Sucky Lives Day”. In fact, if you’re still in the exact same position next year and you’ve done absolutely nothing about achieving your dreams, then we can even make it an annual event. That way, people will continue to like us.
Here’s wishing all of us a happy Blame Our Mothers For Our Sucky Lives Day!!!
ps- Here’s another option: you can be true to yourself and to your values, and show consideration for those around you, then just go ahead and do whatever the hell you want to do!!!… Me, I’m going to get my Righteous Strippers Membership form 😉